Shaykh Sālih al-Fawzān says:
Al-Hiba is: a gift without wanting anything in return.
Allāh, The Most High said:
“..To Allāh belongs the kingdom of the heavens and the earth. He creates what He wills. He bestows female (offspring) upon whom He wills, and bestows male (offspring) upon whom He wills.
Or He bestows both males and females, and He renders barren whom He wills. Verily, He is the All-Knower and is Able to do all things..” [Ash-Shurah 49-50]
Ibn Atiyah said in his tafsīr (Al-Muharrir Al-Wajīz):
‘..He, The Most Glorified, started with females as an honour to them, and so that (the men) will be vigilant in their maintenance and in being good to them…’
And he said:
‘..Wathilah Ibn Al-Asqa’a, may Allāh be pleased with him said:
‘..Verily, from that which brings peace to the women is the praising of her before the men because Allāh started with the woman. Bringing peace to the women meaning: from her blessings and signs of happiness in this world before the hereafter…’
The people are of four types:
Is’hāq Ibn Bishr said: The following verses were sent down about the Prophets:
- Lut: A father of girls, no boys.
- Ibrāhim عليه سلام: A father of boys, no girls.
- Muhammad صلى الله عليه وسلم : He fathered both sexes.
- Yahya Ibn Zakarīya: No children.
That which relates to the verse:
“..Or He bestows both males and females..”
Then this is regarding both boys and girls.
Children are an adornment and a trial
1.Children are an adornment:
The Most High said:
Wealth and children are the adornment of the life of this world. But the good righteous deeds, that last, are better with your Lord for rewards and better in respect of hope. [Al-Kahf 18:46]
Beautified for men is the love of things they covet; women, children..” [Al-Imran 3:14]
2-Children are a fitnah (trial)
The Most High said:
“..Your wealth and your children are only a trial, whereas Allāh! With Him is a great reward (Paradise)..” [Al-Taghābun 16:15]
The messenger of Allah صلى الله عليه وسلم clarified on the mimbar while giving the khutbah when he saw Al-Hasan and Al-Husayn while they were walking and causing obstruction. They were both wearing red shirts. The messenger of Allah صلى الله عليه وسلم came down and picked them up and said:
‘..Allāh has spoken the truth..:
“..Your wealth and your children are only a trial, whereas Allāh! With Him is a great reward (Paradise)..” [Al-Taghābun 16:15]
I saw these two boys walking and causing obstruction and I couldn’t be patient with them until I ascended and picked them up…’ [Abu Dāwood]
3 – Children may distract parents from the obedience of Allāh
The Most High said:
O you who believe! Let not your properties or your children divert you from the remembrance of Allāh. And whosoever does that, then they are the losers. [Al-Munāfiqūn 63:9]
And The Most High said:
O you who believe! Verily, among your wives and your children are your enemies (who may stop you from the obedience of Allāh), therefore beware of them! [At-Taghābun 64:14]
And He صلى الله عليه وسلم said:
‘..Children cause stinginess and cowardice…’ [Collected by Ahmad and Ibn Majah]
Author: Shaykh Sālih al-Fawzān
Source: Tarbīyatul-awlād fī daw’il-Kitābi was-Sunnah
Translated by: Dār Minhājis-Sunnah
Source: Dār Minhājis-Sunnah
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